Nine Months and loosing ground

[missingwifey]

Well guys today was a big day. This morning Wifey called me and asked me to meet her at the court house to finalize the divorce. I said I would be willing to meet her another day and what was the rush. She said "It obvious that you have moved on and I don't think your up to any good and I want to finalize the divorce before you change it to hurt me". By the way, I am,in fact, pregnant and I am terminating it Wed. I immediately started crying and so did she.(More about this later)

I then said "Wifey I don't want this divorce". Fact is, and I shouldn't tell you this, but I still Love you. I always have. I was just giving you your space. To make a long story short, I really sold her that I was done with her (detaching and going dark). I then asked her if we could get together and talk. She said "sure, how about 3:30 her place". I said "OK". An hour before she got there I typed a letter to her (so I didn't screw up what I wanted to say). The letter basically told her I Loved her and some of the reasons (misunderstandings and miscommunications) that have brought us to where we are. I also told her that I have run out of patience with her being with the other man and that I want her to committ to saving our marriage together.

She read the letter and agreed with every word. I her told that I know we can make it work with what I have learned and that I want her to read DR before she makes a decision. I also told her that I totally understand her decision making process that lead to affair (from A to Z)and I ran it down for her. She was blown away. She said I hit the nail on the head. So, I handed DR and we took the kids to mall for a carousel ride and had dinner. I am going to see her all weekend. I am hoping to take kids away long enough for her to read DR. Wifey is a very smart woman. I truly believe if she reads DR (which she has committed to doing) That it will open her eyes. Not traditional DBing but I do not feel bad at all the way I handled today.....OK guys feel free to let me have it