It seems we have more in common than just our anniversary date. I too work in F&B industry and was working ridiculous hours. I usually worked longer than I needed because I dreaded going home to an unhappy situation. The DR book really put relationship dynamics in perspective for me and I realized that we could be happy.
Anyways I think that you should keep up PMA and keep spending time with your kids as much as you can. A friend who went through what we are advised me the same. He said when she sees that you are having fun and spending time with your kids that will be attractive to her.
We both need to stop the pursuit and take care of ourselves and kids first. My wife slipped yesterday and told me NOT to do something because it wasn't romantic. Then I slipped and asked her if she wanted me to be romantic. . . . .just went downhill from there.
I think that we know what to do in a lot of these instances but it is difficult to make that decision right then and there.
Keep the faith!!
Tony
M 34
H 34
Together 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs
Son 2 1/2
Son 2 1/2
SD 12
