Quote: How does one deal with the anger of betrayal? Or deal with trust issues?
I am not sure, but time helps. And myself deciding I didn't want to live my life having to think about H betrayal, OW, lies and the hurt I felt. I was ready to put it all behind me and begin living my life for me, in the present and not the past. If H decided he wanted to be with me fine, but if he didn't I would move ahead without him. I had to get away from the hurt, forgive and move on. I was ready to forget this part of my life. Now realize it took 2 yrs post bomb to get to this point.
Now H did hear my anger many times as it surfaced. But how many times can you beat a dead horse. One of H fears was that I would never let him forget what he did, would always bring it up and make him feel bad. So I have worked hard never to mention it.
It helped that H was being honest, truthful, and looking to the future too. The past and what he did bothered him too and he didn't like to discuss it.
Does this make sense?
wed2
wed2alien
Both 49, M 23 years 3 teens April 2004- bomb, moved out April 2006-Ended with OW for the LAST time May 2006- He wants to work on the marriage!! Nov 2006-- Moved home May 2008- Things still getting better