loosing hope and hurting

[seporateddadof2]

My W BF went to Jail for Demestic Battery the other day. He gave my W a Busted lip and several bruises. He was trying to do more but was too drunk. He got 25000Bail and isnt going to court until 12/5. My kids saw him holding her down and then the police arresting him. So they are really upset. My W is being nice to me again. She is always nice to me when OM is out of town or they are fighting. I went over to her apt last night and I held her and kissed her and comforted her. She started fishing trying to get me to say that I wanted to be with her still and I wouldnt. I just left it as we will see what happens. She has done this to me many times before where she will act interested until she gets what she wants then she runs away again. So now Im going to make her work for it. Im not chasing her anymore. Im going to let her come to me if she is really interested in working things out. I am the man that a W would want to have now and I deserve the same. I am Just so glad that at least for the moment it apears that OM is gone and maybe for good. W says she is going to file a no contact injunction against him. I believe she is really going to do it to because the Police called childrens services and she could loose the children if she doesnt. Win Win sitch for me as far as I can see so far. I know I shouldnt be focusing on OM but I really believe he is the devil incarnate. Not because I blame him for her leaving because I dont. I accepted a long time ago that My W and I will prob never be together again and I moved on. I just want my children to be around decent people and he isnt. So there is a bunch of interesting things going on in my Sitch and I feel detached. Its a good feeling to know that I am ok no matter what. To feel happy independent of my wifes Sitch. I know I am doing what Im supposed to be doing, and taking care of my responsibilities. I finaly feel releaved from the need to react to her and her Sitch. And It feels great. So I am being her friend and supportive to her doing the right thing in getting away from him. Thats all I can do as far as I can see. The rest is up to her.