loosing hope and hurting

[seporateddadof2]

OM went out of town and low and behold my W and I have been talking about a future toghether. I mentioned that its funny how whenever OM isnt around that she and I get closer and she said she noticed that too. I thought that they wernt togheter anymore since their last breakup. Stupid me now she openly admits that they are together and that she cares about him. 7 mo and counting so much for afairs ending around mo 6. She has been talking alot about the things that hurt her in our M and her doubts about permanent change. I need to work on building trust with her again and being open and honest. Big probs in our M. I am really confused about the OM thing. Why is she talking to me about a future while she is still with him? My coach Chuck said I need to work on building a friendship with her. I think I would like that. I need to figure out how to bring about her calling me and being interested in what im up too. But again I dont know what to think of the OM thing.