Wow SDo'2 ! You have done alot in a short time and I think your Db'ing is right on ! Good Job and great attitude ! A 180 right now ? I am not sure I see one at the moment. Just my 2 cents.. will think about it though.. oh.. I do not see her dropping anything in your lap at the moment. she seems very , very confused and my thought is to keep up with the reality of the sitch to her. When you tell her you accept what she is doing and validate how she feels.. well you put it all in her lap (no papers !).. just her actions and emotions.
