loosing hope and hurting

[seporateddadof2]

I cant deny that I have been focusing on OM. He has been a major focus of my anger. I cant focus it on her. so I blame him. I know she made her decisions on her own because that is what she wanted. We had a ton of prob long before he came along. He was just Mr. convenient or way out. I do need to get back to focusing more on myself again. Do more of what has been working. take some time to let the reality of things sink in. We have been talking more and I told her a list of things I wanted. She has already made a plan to spend family time together. Im waiting to see OM gone. It hasnt happened yet. He was my friend for 20 years. now I cant wait to be rid of him. Thanks for the pep talk what you say makes alot of sence and really hits home.