Quote: OK, i am going to take a crack at helping someone, hopefully the ones with more experience can chime in, correct anything I may say wrong or whatever.
Here's what I see and some thing I can relate to in my sit. First, look at this. You said:
Quote: everything was fine until.... I asked her about how she and OM were doing.
I think everyone here will agree, from what I have read and in my own experience, never bring up the OP. I know it is easy to think and feel that the OP has a great deal to do with the problems. In reality it doesn't. Any and all the problems focus between you and her and in that, the only thing you can change is you. The OP IS NOT BETTER THAN YOU in anyway, so just put that away. If he diappeared off the face of the planet tomorrow it would not 'solve all the problems'. The problems would still remain and if she just needs someone around, there could be someone else.
