___________________________________________________________ Then the two of you will "talk" about your sexual relationship using whatever new verbiage you came upon in your newest self-help book. ETC., ETC.Blah, Blech, Blah, Blech, Blah. __________________________________________________________
H does not and will not engage in these types of dialogs. These are all things that go on in my head, my mind, my journal and are ways that I have tried to understand how the h*ll we got to where we are and why we are stuck here. Remember, it was my H who couldn't handle Marriage Encounter because the format was all about discussing things alone between the two of you. A didactic "class" style of marriage advice he could handle but down and dirty - these are our problems, this is my side, this is yours, let's negotiate a solution - NO WAY!!! He is all about avoidance - physical, emotional and conversational. He is all about diversion, deflection and nebulous - it will be better soon or let's go out to dinner.
As for the 180. I am too angry. I am too angry to approach for sex, I am too angry to discuss, I am too angry to do any of that civilly. However, once I get over that I agree that I do need to approach things from a totally different standpoint.
