Quote: Now, if H were to meet an attractive woman who loves Ohio State Football, Star Trek, triathlons, raising umpteen children (some your own, some not), is socially moderate but politically conservative, Catholic, who doesn't eat vegetables, drinks vodka/cranberry and tropical drinks but no wine or beer, loves the beach, is well educated and earns a nice living - he might just f*ck the crap out of her daily and twice on Sunday. Know anyone?
This is just a form of wishful thinking on your part. If you can imagine some woman who your H would f*ck silly then maybe you could change and become that woman and get f*cked silly. OTOH, it relieves you of the responsibility of even trying because clearly you could never become "that woman". What if your husband's real list of ideal mate characteristics put "Is satisfied with sex once a month." higher up than any of those things you listed? Cheery thought isn't it .
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
. 