Karen1 dear, < sympathetic older brother intentions> I have more respect for you than you seem to have for yourself and M right now.
if H were to meet an attractive woman who loves Ohio State Football, Star Trek, triathlons, raising umpteen children (some your own, some not), is socially moderate but politically conservative, Catholic, who doesn't eat vegetables, drinks vodka/cranberry and tropical drinks but no wine or beer, loves the beach, is well educated and earns a nice living - he might just f*ck the crap out of her daily and twice on Sunday. Know anyone?
The answer is no. And my list would be so much shorter right now. Maybe your H's list is shorter than you think it is.
What?? 17/18 qualifications for the perfect mate. Maybe I don't expect much from life but half that many qualifications would be better than the average M I see.
My general point, don't borrow trouble. Marriages are less than perfect. There are just too many day to day things that take a heck of a lot of time. I don't blame you for wanting some affection as you like it.
Sorry for the lack of sex and other things in your M right now.
You might feel bad about something you think you lack but from where I sit, you have lots of good qualities and more good in you than many women have or display.
Karen1, I am not being critical. I think you two have more than what many couples have.
