I think you're right about bf, cobra. And as an AOS guy, his AOS should be enough for me.
I am NOT saying his AOS should be enough for you. I am just saying that you got what you asked for. So ask for more, feel that you truly deserve more, lead the way to giving that which you request.
Lil, you know better than anyone here that all his stuff is just a defense. But like I am saying to Heather, be prepared to accept what you ask for. If you are not comfortable asking for intimacy, being vulnerable, feeling and expressing a certain degree of entitlement to being loved, then he is going to have a hard time putting that forth, don’t you think? Especially for someone with his fears.
This is a tough nut to crack, and in some ways you face the very same dilemma I face. Your methods may be better, more civil, more functional than mine, but I see our objectives and the obstacles we face as the same.
