Quote: Mojo, I guess the way I pursue a man is to look for ways that I can be his soulmate... not in a way that falsifies who I am... but I see something he wants or wants to be and I get that for him or encourage him to get that for himself. So I guess I want a man to see into my soul, too, and honor what he sees there.
Here's the confusing thing. What you write here and in your other post on the topic sounds very appealing to me. I have the thought "Wow, that's really nice. That's how I should behave in a relationship (or at least in my relationship with my Type 4 husband)" but I just don't or can't or something. I think this is because what you describe isn't really what I want in a relationship from somebody else either. If somebody was hotly pursuing me in this manner it would make me feel kind of like the charity case being pursued by the social worker. It would mess with my sense of independence. I'm not slamming you here. I can see how my own "wet-nurse bouncing the baby on her knee" style pursuit definitely has a downside too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
