Karen & IHJ- I totally dig what you two are saying. I don't worry so much about my bf finding a soul mate... I just worry that I never will... that I never will find someone who truly wants to know me, and especially to know me sexually and intimately.
Tonight I went with him to our every other week C meeting, and at the end I asked bf for an affirmation that he sees me as being supportive in his life. He said something really convoluted like, "I see your behavior as being that of someone who cares." Huh? Even the C rolled his eyes.
Both of us are hiding.
I've decided to start going back to my own C who I went to right after my H died. She's Jewish, an older lady, a Jungian (former pres of the local Jung Society) and her husband passed away almost two years ago (so I know she now understands widowhood as only one can who has gone through it). I need someone who is focused on ME. I find myself doing his work too much. I need to keep doing MY work.
