The pregnancy is going along beautifully. I had an 8wk ultrasound and baby is a whopping 1.73cm with a heartrate of 167bpm. We are officially "graduated" to the regular ob and Oct 9 (the day before H's b-day) we will have our nt screening (screen for Downs and such in us old gals, will help decide the whole amnio or not issue) which is fantastic - it involves the 4D ultrasound. Several folks have already guessed due to my tiredness and newly filled out rack. I'm not telling work for a few more weeks though.
A lot has happened that has curtailed intimacy and sex. First there is early pregnancy nausea and exhaustion, then H's Grandfather died, the start of school is always stressful and blah, blah, blah. However, I am starting to feel a bit better (particularly if I remember to eat little things frequently) and should be able to resume exercising which always helps. H has the cold that I gave him which usually causes him to beg out of sex but last night he nearly rubbed the skin off my butt as my exhausted, nauseous self thought "I think he's trying to start something" just before I passed out. The long and the short of it is I think he's very interested but he won't engage me as long as he isn't sure if I am "up to it." He's happy as a pig in sh!t about the baby and he loves the pregnant curves so I need to do whatever I can to see that some action happens soon.
oooh, K, sounds like everything's going swimmingly.
Re: H and the butt rubbin, here is what I do with my H. I will ask a leading question that forces him to own up to his intentions. Of course, he instantly turns it back on me "well how are you feeling?" etc but I don't let that phase me. I don't answer the question but instead answer, "I think I can guess how YOU are feeling.." with a smile in my voice. I want him to own his desire. Even though it's been several years, he still struggles with this. No matter. I'm persistent, lol. I need him to lead the encounter. I need him to pursue me, anything else ends up with me feeling weird..not sure if he even notices. Anyway, my advice is to speak up when he does this--I actually think he'd be relieved.
I'm so happy that BabyK is healthy and safe. I remember SO clearly those early weeks of pregnancy when I, too, would pass out and H would leave me alone, all the while I was becoming more and more lonely.
Wow Karen! That's so cool. Sorry to hear you are feeling nauseous/wiped out but from what I hear that is the progesterone kicking in good and strong which will keep the baby right where it belongs. I had no nausea with my pg's so consequently spent the first trimester fretting that I wasn't generating enough progesterone to keep it all going
Nice to hear a bit of good news around here!
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
___________________________________________________________ Re: H and the butt rubbin, here is what I do with my H. I will ask a leading question that forces him to own up to his intentions. Of course, he instantly turns it back on me "well how are you feeling?" etc but I don't let that phase me. I don't answer the question but instead answer, "I think I can guess how YOU are feeling.." with a smile in my voice. I want him to own his desire. Even though it's been several years, he still struggles with this. No matter. I'm persistent, lol. I need him to lead the encounter. I need him to pursue me, anything else ends up with me feeling weird..not sure if he even notices. Anyway, my advice is to speak up when he does this--I actually think he'd be relieved _______________________________________________________
Not much sex around here. H and DS14 just completed an Olympic distance triathlon and with all the training leading up to it and my pregnancy we've been pretty tired. Then H was chafed in all the wrong places due to the race. We did have sex a couple of nights before the race but I had that "it's been too long" reaction where my body just wasn't really in synch, I didn't o and I don't think he thought it was great either. When we have sex more often everything seems to go better.
So the preggo hormones are going crazy. A couple of nights ago I had an affair with Colin Farrell in my dream. I don't even find him remotely interesting. It was just strange. Every pregnancy I get all sexually ramped up.
Baby x seems to be growing along just fine. Some of my bloodwork came back funny so I now need to see an endocrinologist for suspected hyperthyroid. I don't have any of the symptoms other than messed up TSH. We'll see.
H was very sweet and had a bouquet of 2 dozen roses sent to my office because of my "support" during the training and all. He is such an AOS guy. His romantic gesture is totally tied to my being a "trooper" during a difficult training/prep schedule. I absolutely love the flowers but if I could just get him to translate the "thanks" into blanking my blank....
Well, finally!!! H started his typical butt rub on Saturday night but it was a bit more insistent than usual. We went on to have a lovely time together and H's desire was clear and evident. It usually is if I just wait and let him start things at his own pace the problem is that it is too long between for me. Luckily, lately the morning sickness has been holding my desire down to more tolerable levels.
H was away on business for two days. He came back with a little gift for each of the girls and a pretty pink sweater for me. It is an XS so it will not fit for long (I have it on today). This is huge for him. He has a hard time choosing "girly" gifts. In addition to that when he came to bed he sort of gave me a full body "rub" - he wasn't initiating because he was very tired but he did seem to be acknowledging some sexual thoughts. He also suggested that we go out on Saturday afternoon even if we don't eat dinner out (we are watching football in the daytime and always eat a lot while watching) that we could just go shopping or go get dessert or go to a coffee shop (he hates coffee). While he was gone he sent me an email saying he was up late at night "thinking of me".
He was like this during my last pregnancy too. He almost seems more comfortable with my sexuality when I'm pregnant. Weird.
If only I can sustain this when I'm not knocked up.
Re K1 He was like this during my last pregnancy too Karen, that is what I thought when BB was PG. I sort of wanted kids and sort of was wanting to avoid the extra responsibilities. could I be a good dad. Would my income be enough and so on.
Once she was PG there isn't any more to worry about. The die is cast and BB couldn't get PG on top of being PG so it was like bonus time. Something like an "all you can eat pass" to a buffet to a hungry teenage guy.
You say your H adores babies. Well I think, and I really don't know, he also thinks about taking on more responsibility and that unconsciously hinders his SD when you are not PG.
I am not saying I know what your H thinks, just saying that is what went on in my mind back in the potential getting PG days.
Anyway, WTG on the sex, the romance, and best wishes with the pregnancy.
It's great to hear that you are getting lots of tlc during your pregnancy. Funny, H was very attentive during both my pregnancies. Making sure I ate enough, rubbing my feet, etc.
Maybe one of these could help the tlc factor post pregnancy.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
