Lou you said....

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had a few days of severe back trouble but am fine now. This usually triggers BB in to sell everything and buy a "Patio Home" where you have to have a maintenance agreement / co-op for all of the repairs and someone mows the lawn, shovels the snow, and takes care of the outside of the building for a monthly fee. BB wants things tidied up in case I die? I feel I am just here for her benefit sometimes.




Lou that was a very rude thing to say. I realize maybe that is how you feel. But terrible expecially if you said that to your wife. Your posts seem very one sided as in BB does this and says that. From that statement I can see that you to may attribute to the problems in your marriage. Here is why...

I would bet if my husband and I were in the age bracket as you and your wife and I seen him suffering with back problems already knowing he had back problems in the past it would worry me. I would want to also move where things would be esier on him. So that maybe he wouldn't have to strain so much with a bad back. Be able to take it a little easier. Her comment sounds like mine would and that is out of love and concern. You take it as all she thinks about is when you die. Can you imagine how she would feel? So it doesn't matter if she shows concern or not you take it negative either way. She can't win.

And honestly if she is having these terrible symptoms during sex she should go to the doctor.But I also think you should be a little understanding because this could be very much hurting her. My grandma had told me she was no longer interested in a sexual relationship past 65 or 65 she couldn't remember exact. She said it began to hurt and just wasn't as appealing after all the years of doing it.

One more thing I know you said your wife keeps things really neat. So this clutter everywhere probably drives her nuts. I am a neat person and it would drive me batty. But see I am stubborn when it comes to organized house. So I would have maybe called someone to come out and put a storage shed outside and then loaded the shed up. MY gosh it sounds like you have an awful lot of things lying around. Could you maybe move these items to a basement or somewhere? Or maybe a garage if you have one? I know you said you made progress in getting rid of some. But the neat person in here still see's the pile of clutter laying there. AS neat clean freaks we can't help it.