No, she takes it as a one sided attack on her. as in "Look what a bad person BB is"
I don't say much about my IC either. Db and IC are just places to make BB look bad to her.
One of the reasons for posting today is, I am contributing to the problem even though I know, read, was advise what not to do and what to do. I am not going to say I can't help myself, it's more that doing more doesn't improve the R much and sometimes comes across as male control, which some women see as an undesirable.
