Re Lil This is something YOU control, and you do not control it by trying in vain to control your partner's behavior. I know I control it according to Rational Emotive Therapy, A. Ellis, it's just a lot easier to live with someone that is a little less critical and sees the good in things.
But as observant and sensitive as you are, sooner or later you would be driven nuts by your partner's behavior About everyone has faults and some would bug me, I agree. That goes along with my 5% compatibility estimate. Also, it's not just me I think about. I think, what about the OP, do I bug them in some big way that is a deal breaker or is very annoying?
Name for me one quality that SHE has....something about HER that you respect and admire. BB has the animal's welfare at heart. BB sticks to a schedule well. BB exercises even when she doesn't see results. She keeps the house clean.
In a round about way, I asked BB, what are some good traits she has that she would like people to know more about. She said none. I said she takes care of the animals well, sticks to schedules, and exercises on a regular basis.
I hinted she had some traits that were good and she said she was grumpy to people and knew why some people don't like her. I think she was trying to bait or string me along. A little while later, I asked if she still felt she was a grumpy person. She said no, especially after a back rub.
