Quote: [BB said:] I was being moody when I walk away.
Let her say this. So what? So what if she thinks you're being moody? I don't mean this as a rhetorical question. What are the consequences to either one of you if she THINKS you're being moody. You're NOT being moody, so who cares what she thinks.
Your Identity System requires that she understand you and why you do things. This is not necessary. Your Identity System thinks it's necessary, but it's not necessary. It is not necessary for your well-being that she understand why you do something. And your effort to make her understand has you running around and around the hamster wheel.
Let her wonder. Let her be confused. Let her be in the dark. Let her figure it out on her own. Don't try to do her thinking for her. Let her misunderstand you.
Let yourself BE misunderstood and just BE with it without trying to change it.
