Re Fran What would happen if when BB was in the middle of one of her negative rants I have asked she not be negative so often and please try to look for some good in things several times. What has happened so far was BB said I can't tell her how she should feel so Don't try.
She also did a flip and said she was never going to talk about anything in a negative way or something like that. One case was, if the bread was moldy, she wouldn't mention it.
"Quit whining you miserable cow". Wow, I don't think I would use words like that. I guess I had too many sensitivity training lessons, about women's weight and how they look. That word "cow" can get a guy in some serious trouble and rather than motivate the OP to do something, really makes the person that said "cow" look bad.
Fran I am not judging your intent, so don't take what I say as being critical of the word choice. I agree with your intentions, the "quit whining" part.
It also doesn't invalidate her opinion BB thinks I am trying to invalidate her opinion so to her it does.
Sunday, I kind of let BB say what she wanted w/o saying anything. It became somewhat resentful till I decided to do my own thing and go to my cave (work area in my shop). I know being away from BB and ignoring her doesn't build much of a R, but I didn't feel like interacting with her and some of her preferences that I find too restricting or opinionated.
At times I am better able to ignore the comments BB makes. sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
(About me and not hitting below the belt/fighting dirty) I had to repossess a car for non-payment. I found the car at school. The guy's kid drove it there. I got in the car with the spare key and claimed the car but I gave the kid a ride home.
Using the word cow would be fighting dirty, just like taking the car and not getting the kid home would bother me.
Most of the housing stock is Victorian so the houses are solid brick and have high ceilings I am originally from the Philadelphia Pennsylvania area. Lots of old brick and stone houses with high ceilings.
In Montana, some years we have a week of air-conditioning weather, other years the A/C is on for over a month.
Part of our saving grace is the humidity is low. sometimes humidity is a bigger factor than the actual temperature.
Local temps 98f/36.6c days, 65f/18.3c nights, with 24% humidity. Add a 10 mph / 17 km/h breeze and it is kind of nice right now.
About your feelings alone in the boat, I have experienced something like that. Just wanted you to know that you have my empathy and a lot of this stuff is not gender specific. People are people more than they are male or female.
