Re cobra BB is obviously so VERY insecure and low confidence she takes anything that is not a boost to her ego as an attack to her ego. You are mostly right.
Picking one church and sticking with it will give her the alpha male security she needs to gain some confidence. I may stick with a church related activity but right now I am done with looking for a home church for me.
BB asked me some things about attending I said to leave me out of all decisions. I am going to be emotionally detached.
You make the friends, then introduce them to her. I don't think I will introduce her if I make any friends. I won't keep any information from her either.
Your actions remind me of the interracial wife, trying to rescue her H. The only way he could grow was for her to stop rescuing, Gotcha Cobra.
but rescuing her is really rescuing yourself Yes I see that. I also see it as rescuing the R sometimes.
So do you have the strength to hold on to yourself and stop the enmeshment, I see the emeshment.
Like your W, BB was the one to quickly bring up the D word and I usually was the one to try to get things back on a rational track. I haven't done that in a long time with the big blow ups.
It didn't work in the long run and I am not in a mood to try much of anything right now. (today's thinking, tomorrow might be different)
as you both grow? I can see growing apart more, but who knows. It seems some R's are only worth something when the salvage pickers show up.
I am not there but can imagine BB not changing much till it is about over. <just an observation>
Cobra have some fun on vacation. Thanks for checking in but don't sacrifice any time on my account. Not much changes from day to day here in Lou land.