Quote: Lou your thrifty, saving, do a lot with a little attitude is rare and a real asset to your family. Strengths can be weaknesses too though. I have my own ways I take anti consumerism too far too. Personally I dont see where you should get rid of your inventory, if its making you a profit still. But maybe if you bought one of those frivolous 4 dollar cups of coffee with BB once in a while she would see you moving a little towards her side of the equation. I bet it would shock the crap out of her at any rate.
I agree with BF. I am the frugal one in my marriage so I totally understand your POV but I realize now that I spent way too much time and energy having arguments about things like whether or not the generic tastes as good as the brand name. What made a big difference in my situation was I insisted that my H take over handling the family finances. Now he can see the benefit of my frugality when it comes to the grocery budget and I can see the benefit of his more liberal spirit when it comes to spending money on me- LOL. I can see that a lot of his "pickiness" was due to lack of control and a lot of my feeling of being an overworked lackey was due to taking on too much responsibility in an effort to please. Of course, if you believe that your W is actually irresponsible when it comes to money management rather than just someone with different priorities, this approach wouldn't work. BF's idea is good. Another good idea might be to tell BB that you would like to buy some new clothes for yourself and you would like her input on where to shop and what to buy. Maybe if you're lucky she'll think you look so hot in the new expensive duds she picks out for you she'll be inclined to take them right off you too!
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