Well, she asks me a lot of questions, and much of the time I do not see how she puts my responses into action. She often has made up her mind before consulting me.
She relies on me for information. She thinks I know something about medical issues, and usually listens to me there. But she does not usually care about my opinions (much less my feelings). So she will ask me whether a particular house is appropriate for us, but is not interested in whether I think we even need to move.
In her mind, she is running a business. I'm not really even a partner in the business, I'm more of an employee. Let me take this analogy further. Suppose I complain that she is not doing her part as a spouse. She listens and has absolutely nothing to say because she cannot comprehend what I am saying. After all, it is not the employee's role to question the boss's right to run the company as s/he pleases. This is especially odd since in her actual job, she has almost no decision-making authority, whereas I do.
I'll never forget my first visit to a MC, who thought that W did not feel "empowered."
