Regarding why did your W insist on you two marrying...hmmmm. That brings to mind something else that my friends GF has said (once again, she's Chinese not Japanese...so I don't know how much difference in culture there may be). During a conversation she and I once had about relationships & culture....she once said that basically the way she was raised that there was an expectation that the daughters marry by a certain age....otherwise they were considered spinsters and a burden on their family. Is it possible....just possible, that your W was trying to fulfill a family "obligation"?
That sounds so cold to me as I write it, but I do know that there are many cultures who simply don't equate love into marriage...it's a bonus if it's there, but it's not necessary. The Chinese culture is one of those cultures....sure they are often allowed to marry now if they happen to fall in love and it's agreeable to the families, but not always. Is the Japanese culture similar that way?
