I could very well be wrong, but from what I remember hearing in reference to "family" as far as...and this is just what I remember hearing, not fact of course. But I remember people referring to revering parents, an devoting to children...you rarely hear about spouses.
I have a friend who has a Chinese gf (I know different culture) but from what she has relayed to me...even in their culture people can somewhat detach themselves emotionally to focus on what they find important. Take my friends gf for example. They must be apart for approx 2 years while she finishes her education. They met not long before she had to leave the country (he lives in the UK, they met there)...she came here to the states to finish her education. She told him without any qualms that while she was gone he should find someone he could have sex with so his needs were met. Very matter of fact. Now my friend knows he can't do that an maintain his feelings for her as they are now. She however in their conversations seems to expect that he can do this....kind of put their R on pause, and then resume things just as they were when she left when she returns. She explained that it's not uncommon in her culture to find a "sex surrogate" of sorts...to make sure the man's "needs" are met. But she was ok with that because she said she'd be focusing on finishing her education and since she couldn't be there to take care of those needs, in her mind she was taking care of them by telling him he should seek someone else out.
Now here in the US....that's simply not an option, we wouldn't go for that. She matter-of-factly believed he should do this....but the thing that I think bothered him most is that she stated it in such an unemotional manner, very detached.
If I believe what she says, which I have no reason not to...she's doing her duty....in a way. Now, other than that she does dote on him hand and foot, no question...and she's a sweet girl, but she can appear emotionally detached in the drop of a hat.
GEL
PS....personally, I think there's more going on that has Pauls W detaching the way she is. I'm not sure it's cultural.
