Hey Paul, I've been wondering how you've been doing. I totally agree with what Karen said about how, when we withdraw, the spouse seems happier.
Frankly, I think you should go house shopping too, but look for smaller, less expensive ones than the one you're in now. You know, something that a single flight attendant might be able to afford on her salary. Woman needs a dose of reality if you ask me.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. Manly hugs to you, ol' buddy.