I know how it feels to withdraw from your partner and/or marriage only to find your partner seems happier, more friendly even. Of course they do, the pressure is off and they are free to go on about their lives as they prefer to do without their pesky spouse pressuring them for love, sex, affection whatever... Sometimes our very presence is too much pressure. I have come to view these times of withdrawal as "mini vacations" which will allow me time to get myself together for the next bout of less pleasant times. I'm sorry that you are looking at D as a likely/potential outcome. Hopefully, it doesn't have to be that way. Have you two attempted counseling? Have you talked with a DB counselor? Might be worth a try.
