RE mandksdad It blew up today when she decided to seek a new house to buy. Did you say she had to pay for it?
Telling someone they are unreasonable <my assumption> doesn't work very well. Letting them know you will not be a part of it is all you can do sometimes.
Paul. From what you write, your W seems very independent, almost too independent for one person. Do other people she knows <just guessing> some how support her or encourage her.
Some of the things you wrote about sound like she has another life away from home, real or an imaginary one.
It used to be that the thought of W remarrying was completely horrifying; less so now BTDT Paul.
If your son was 25 and came to you and said "dad, this is what is going on" what would advise him to do?
