I just wanted to comment on this. I find myself constantly making decisions based on fear. I'm only starting to realize how destructive this is and I'm trying to address it, but my first step was to make myself some index cards which I've placed in the house & car that say, "THE FUTURE WILL BE BETTER THAN THE PAST."
It's corny, I know, but it's a constant reminder to me that I can decide my own future; my past cannot decide it, my fear cannot decide it, my husband cannot even decide it.
Financial fear is a biggie to me, too. I've worked in Finance & Accounting for 15 years, but my degree is in a completely unrelated Liberal Arts field. In the past 5 years every company has decided that experience doesn't matter, only the degree, so when H dropped the bomb I was panicked because I knew I was stuck in the job I have. So, I'm going back to school to get my Accounting degree. I start classes Nov. 28!!
You CAN decide your future, but rainbow is right, you need to focus on you! If you read my thread, you'll see proof positive that focusing on H will only make you crazy!
H-44 M-36 Married 6/7/03 8/17/06 - H not sure he wants to be married any more 8/17/06-present - Just crawling through the rubble that's left of my life 2/8/07 - H admitted affair
