Yeah, I know what you mean with that "releasing" thing, I'd imagine it's with older couples mostly. Remembering the younger days with the fire and the passion and thinking if we ever split what an explosion it would be but these things have a way of wearing a body down to the point where the arguments stop and the communication stops and just comfortable until going separate ways.
Wish I had some good advice or lesson learned to follow that up but can't think of anything at the moment. Let's just hope your H will have some sort of wake up call and realize he just needs to say he wants you at the next duty station to all be together.
