Quote: WHY, WHY, WHY can he not answer my question?
Opti, H did answer your question. In the only way he could right now. It isn't the answer you want to hear, it isn't black and white, but it is what he could give at this point. How many more times can you ask? as much as you want as long as you don't mind getting an answer you can't live with. In my example, everytime I have asked H in the last 3 years if he is staying or going, he says he is looking for a place and leaving. He hasn't. So I quit asking. Yes, there is many days that I think I cannot go another minute without knowing the answer and the direction for my life. But I also know that if I ask again his answer will be the same, and maybe he is ready to act on it the next time I ask. The gamble and risk is that someday he may be ready to answer something different and I'm not taking the chance to find out.
It is very true you have many valid concerns about relocating with S4 and your job history and the upheaval each move creates. I remember just a short year ago you were buying a house and ready to stay put for a while. What's the rush now to get an answer from H? It's 9 months before the transfer happens. (You could have another baby by then?) Maybe he's playing games with you, maybe he truly is giving you the best answer he can.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
