Quote: Should I really just jump him one day and tell him I have a job offer on the west coast I want to take?
No. IMO, that is in effect dropping your own bomb.
The time may not be yet, but I think you should lay it out on the table before you get to the "bomb/point of no return" stage for yourself.
Ask for what you want.
Spell it out specifically to him. Right down to detailing examples of the sort of quality time you need.
Give him the opportunity to step up, but at the same time, know when you do this that he may do exactly what he's done in the past when given ultimatums. Make sure you let him know that you want all these things with him, but that you can't live in suspended animation with him anymore.
One question, when you guys talk about serious things, does he do better through email, on the phone, or in person?
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