Turning myself around

[WCW]

Just as a reminder for you, I get the same thing if I ask H about anything R related and 'make up your mind'. It's been over 2.5 years now that I first asked him what he was doing, he told me then he didn't know if he was staying a week, a month, or a year. Last R talk, in April this year, and any in between, he basically said the same thing, except he was looking for a place now. He hasn't done anything more that I am aware of, I also quit asking - no pressure, and we are in a better spot than we've been in for a while. How does this relate to your R? Your H hasn't made decisions about anything. That's good! If you push him for a decision because YOU need to have one, we can probably all guess at what his decision will be. It's up to you to decide if it's more important to get his decision now because you want it, or to give him the time he needs to take to make his decision. Even then, it may not be the decision you would like.

I'm not saying that you should put your life on hold to wait for his decision. Maybe he can't handle you enhancing your carreer and making moves to better yourself, then it's his problem to deal with which will still turn into your problem. Just don't make these moves to spite your H, make them because it is what you truly need to do for yourself and your family.