Thanks NNP and RonJon for your posts. I thought I would just leave the boards at this point, but I still find myself coming back just to see if there's anyone out there to talk to.
Quote: I know it is not good Db'ing but I think I would want to ask him what changed, since the last time you were together you were talking about another child... right?
I really, really want the answer to this too. But, I did ask H during our last phone convo if something had happened at work and he said, "no, same old, same old." And although I did not ask him "what has changed since I saw you last" in those exact words, I did fish around a lot for information and the more I did the less he would say. That's a cheeseless tunnel from Alaska. The only thing he would give me was "I haven't made any decisions about anything yet." I asked him what "anything" meant, and he replied, "anything." So, I don't think I'll be asking him any more questions.
He struggles with depression, I'm pretty sure he fits the definition for an alcoholic and he has never been able to accept a home beyond his parents house. He can be the most wonderful person in the world-caring, gentle, loving, considerate. And just as often, if not more often, he is a horrible person, verbally mean, inconsiderate, selfish, secretive, noncommunicative.
It doesn't average out though, unfortunately.
Quote: If what he really wants is a clean house and the room he grew up in then yeah, he's only going to find that at his parents house. Frankly to me that sounds like a boy and not a man.
Speaking of hitting nails on the head, Ron Jon...thank you for pegging that one for me.
I still don't know if I'm going to be able to pull off the Act As If thing. We'll see how I feel when and if H shows up.
Boy, do I feel silly having bought this house last January only to be having to figure out whether to sell or rent out in August.
