(((Opti))), You know what, you're probably right, if his concept of a good M is a clean house or a clean car then there is not a realistic way to control the situation. We get in these ruts so deep we sometimes forget what it's really all about. And that's being #1 in each other's eyes despite flaws. If what he really wants is a clean house and the room he grew up in then yeah, he's only going to find that at his parents house. Frankly to me that sounds like a boy and not a man.
To bounce back some excellent advice, do what is good for you Opti. Any plan is a good plan and if you plan to be yourself, then he'll need to decide what he wants to do. You've hung on for so long, what's a few more weeks at this point? Maybe even less if he shows up on the doorstep tomorrow or this weekend. Sending the positive vibes via electrons, RonJon
