(((Opti))) It seems H has made his statement. I see 2 things, you have to get thru this leave and you have to decide what comes next after his leave. For the leave, if your time off work is flexible let H make the contact about S4 and all arrangements. If H wants to spend time with S4, are you okay with H taking S4 for a few days or week? How would you feel? and even though he has not stated anything about spending time with you, he did say he would be coming to your town. The other option is to be assertive and let H know you are a family, and you expect family time. If he is not willing to honor that request, tell him not to make the drive to your town. His responses about his leave will lead you to answers about handling life after H returns back to duty.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
