Do you know for sure he is heading to parents? I agree it all points to that, but you do not know for sure yet, right? Just maybe he is going to have a big surprise and show up at your door! Explore your options, but don't make your decisions yet.
Go for your career. Other than the support from your mom with S4, you hate it where you are. If H won't commit, if H won't live with you, he can fly to whereever you are to see S4.
Being quite blunt now (like I haven't already), why are you still married? You've had 3 nice days together in how many years of marriage? Do you WANT to stay married, or do you feel like you are SUPPOSED to stay married?
This state is No Fault Divorce. You don't have to incriminate anyone.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
