OK, looks more and more like I'm heading into the same situation as two years ago. There was a large withdrawal from checking yesterday, which leads me to believe that H bought airline tickets. Yet, he hasn't told me anything about his plans. Looks like his leave is on, but he's headed to his parents. I know he'll want to see S4 and S4 needs to see him.
I'm trying to decide how I'll deal with this. H should be flying to his parents the end of next week if he really did get his leave. I'm pretty sure he would atlease email me to tell me when he plans to come up and see S4. Will I tell him to come pick him up and take him back down to his parents, then do the trip again to return him before H flys back? I think I can handle doing that in a calm way.
Of course I'll fall to pieces after S4 leaves because I've never been away from him for that long. And I'll be facing the end of my M all over again, on top of it. Talk about loneliness and abandonment. But, I've tried to prepare myself for this situation before. I think it will be a little easier this time.
Or will I decide to take whatever kind of contact H will give me, even if it's just him showing up once a year, for I don't know how many days, without the courtesy of forwarning, or an explanation of why he has stopped communicating, or a hint of the "future talk" H said we would have.
Maybe that's the reason for all of this. Besides him being depressed and angry about his job. Maybe he's just stressed about that talk and dreading coming here to have it. Hmmmm....I can see that. But he's the one that said we should wait and have this talk during his leave instead of over email, which I would have been ok with.
Do I tell him not to worry about having that conversation, that I can go without? I don't know if I can do that at this point. Waiting without a clue of what he has planned for us means that I can't move forward with my own life. I want to move on from this town and move up in my field, but if I do now, chances that H and I will be together again are EXTREMELY slim. I can chose where I go, he can't.
Can you file for D on grounds of abandonment if your spouse has physically abandoned you and stopped communicating, but still sends money?
