I hear exactly what you are saying. I am so fair that my eyelashes and eyebrows aren't just blond - they are translucent. Without any makeup, I look nearly ill. With drugstore makeup, I look like I'm trying way too hard to make money in an illicit fashion.
You should check out Just for Redheads. They sell wonderful colors for those of us who are SO fair that the "fair" cosmetics sold in the grocery store make us look tan.
They have very light brown mascara, for instance, that makes you look like other people look like without any makeup on at all.
