Quote: You have to realize that as devasted that you are, it is not just about you. You MUST consider how your spouse may be feeling.
I agree 100%...as hurt a I was(understatement of my real feelings)I couldn't believe that there wasn't some horrible internal pain that my H had that "allowed" him to do something so terrible to his family...it allowed me to have empathy for him even though I had my own pain...
