Quote: also think if he is willing to say "It isn't what you think." then he should be willing to tell you both what he thinks your thinking (he could be using this to ease his own guilty conscience and feel he isn't lying)....and then to tell you what the heck he really is doing! and what he THINKS he is doing.....
Mama, I TOTALLY agree with this. I don't know if a R talk is going to be the right thing for you right now, but I would damn sure ask this man WTH IS going on if he says it's not what you think. Again, simply asking him "Ok, if it's not what I think, first of all, tell me what YOU think I think it is, and then tell me what it really is." would not be out of bounds. I think you REALLY need to take the DB leash off and let that one fly, but then again, maybe I'm just being emotional on your behalf, lol.
