Quote: My kids are still small, so as far as they are concerned Daddy & I love eachother and will continue to provide stability and security for them.
Yea, I feel the same way. I know people here have said "They KNOW what's going on even if you don't think they do." Really? My S6 & S3 see NOTHING different going on between mommy and daddy than before. We NEVER kissed in front of them before and we don't now. We didn't ML with them in the room, and we don't now. We never said ILY in front of them (W has never been one to vocalize that particular sentiment) and we don't now. We still hug, cuddle, kiss on the cheek, do things for each other, etc, just like always. I can assure you that if I or my W were to say we were ending things, it would come as a total shock to them, and for that matter, most of our family. That's one of the reasons it's SO hard to contemplate a unilateral move to separate or file. Things ARE good to a point right now, surely better than they were when W decided to have an affair, and so why should I give up now? I don't want to give up. I want to make this work, and eventually, I want my W to want that too. I THINK she does now, but I am willing to wait to be sure.
My kids ARE a major motivation for me to work my a$$ off and they will always be. Are they enough to make me suffer a passionless/sexless marriage forever? I don't think so, but forever is a long time.
