I love this board!! I can put my feelings out there and get so much support, advice and inspiration!! It keeps me hanging on another day!!
I personally think we had a pretty good marriage except that the frequency of our sex life was lessened once the kids came along. We were married on Valentine's Day 1994 and between that time and 2001 I was pregnant 6 times (2 misscarriages, D10, D9, 1 stillborn, S5) Needless to say between the trama going on in my body and my head, 2 babies 16 months apart, losing a baby, etc. it left little time for sex. I am not trying to make excuses but just want you to understand that I am not some frigid wife whose poor H HAD to have an A in order to get his needs met. He could of had a little compassion for ME and talked to me about how neglected he felt. But alas.....here I am.
So if I were to focus on our sex life, I would, except for the fact that my H is not interested. Any advice
That being said, my H has also told me that I am controlling. Now I must admit that I am but I feel that I have to be. I am the glue that keeps this family running. I am a stay at home mom therefore I take on everything. Kids, cooking, cleaning, pets, yardcare, bill paying, food shopping, dr. appts., etc., etc. I run a pretty tight ship (Type A fixer personality) therefore you could call me "controlling" but I feel if I don't take care of these things no one would. If I stopped doing any one of these things it would just sit. We would have nothing to eat, we would run out of toilet paper, the laundry would pile up to the ceiling......Any advice here
