See that's the other side too. The kids will be effected by how the H treats the W and vice versa (my own pet theory). If the kids see the H treat the W and the W treat the H with respect and love, that's how they will formulate their relationships in life...and their kids and their kids...on and on.
It's a cycle.
Lin has a great point. You CANNOT have a family without you.
Not really advice, just some things to think about.
