Strongbear, ****I think he will feel like he is cheating on HER if he is with me.....They probably feel that they are soul mates....The poor martyr(sp) must stay with me for the sake of our kids.
NOT saying he does, but I felt the same thing.
****my only hope is that she decides that she can't wait any longer and breaks up with him.
My OW would actually get jealous when I spent time with the kids. When my W had her problems and I had to go help her, she went ape sh^t.
There is a great post on another thread about "staying for the kids" posted by runningoutoftime. It really opened my eyes.
That being said I wonder sometimes how long the LBS should be trampled on. Should it be months, years? I don't know.
By your admission your H loves your "family" that may be his motivation to come back. Whether he or the OW breaks it off, then it is up to you if you are going to forgive him and bring him back.
It seems your H is back. He cannot have a "healthy" R with the OW if he is spending so much time at home. The OW will resent this eventually.
