Has your husband been checked for physical problems...I ask because when my H came home he now had ED...it has gotten some better...but not where it was...he has finally gone to the doctor to address these issues with others.... the doctor said it could be emotional because of all that happened...but then it could have physical reasons so we are looking at that....you see, he lacks desire too...so maybe your H is "lacking desire"....and it isn't personal...my H said he isn't attracted to ANY woman...so being a size 2 or 22 wouldn't be the issue here..
I do hope you can help him back to you....intimately, soon...I know how that feels to have them their but not be able to HAVE THEM...