Hi all, it's been awhile. The wife and I are still roughly in the same boat. She is still in almost-WAW mode, and is taking classes left and right, so the family and I barely see her. I have been trying to GAL, going to night school, still attending my mens support group, which is kind of like a non-religous "Promise Keepers". I am at a low point right now with the holidays, and our anniversary coming up. She isn't into any of our family traditions, or attending holiday functions with me, or inviting me to her friend's parties. I am in active counseling, and she attends with me once in a great while, and goes to counseling on her own. I have been giving her space, and taking care of way more than my fair share of housework and repairs. I know I have to do the work, as she won't do it unless it gets to crisis levels. The kids are really starting to complain about how she isn't around nearly as much, and I have to agree. I know this is can be a very lengthy process, but I am really starting to lose hope. There has been absolutely no physical contact, (don't even think about S-X) for the past 15 months. I am still madly in love with her, but I am starting to really resent her, and that scares me. I have had the D paperwork filled out twice before, but have "come to my senses" before I retained a lawyer and went through with filing. I have no close friends to discuss this with and she doesn't want to discuss it with me, even with the counselor. He is a good guy, but has said that DB and he aren't compatible, so I can't get a DB coach (and be truthful with him). So, it's a pity party for me, I know, but I could really use some more insights.
