Maybe it would be a good marital therapy technique to just pretend like you were on hidden camera but instead of trying to prove what a jerk your spouse was your mission was to prove what a great spouse you are.
That's a great way to reframe what Lil said. I like it.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
