Quote: Lil: I think Shalom in the Home is probably different because .....and it might be possible for the couple to kind of forget that they're there and just act natural.
Lou: It would take 6 months before I felt like acting natural. Can some people be that open? I suppose if a people think a lot of people act that way it would easier to show more of one's true self. How much depends on a lot of things.
I think in some cases people can get to acting natural if they want to prove their spouse is a jerk. IOW if I'm pissed because my H never washes the dishes even after I nag him, then when the cameras are running, I may want to nag him just to make sure the camera catches what a jerk he is when he refuses to wash the dishes, kwim. I'm so intent on pushing him into behavior that will prove he's a jerk that I lose sight of my own jerky behavior.
It kind of happens on this board sometimes... someone will bring a he said/she said tale of some kind and the readers will point out how the poster helped create the sitch, but at the time all the poster wanted was to prove the other person was a jerk.
