Yup, welcome to the club, Muddle. You talked to her mother about your M? You're no longer my C, guy I know it's tempting and you do it to try and make the right changes but you just learned first hand how that turns out. I hope you dress nice for the wedding and look like a million bucks. You want others to comment on how great you look to her! She'll notice. It ain't no cake walk, is it.